So I had the most shocking session on Monday. It was squat day and I knew before I even got there that it wasn’t going to go well. I was feeling gross, I had a headache and I felt very very bloated (Probably because I ate far too much on Sunday night – lesson learned). But I showed up, and gave it a crack.

I started off slow, and never really picked up. I ended up failing pretty miserably on a 90kg squat. I was on rep number 2, and I went down – but there was no getting back up. There were almost tears, but I did what any self-respecting girl does – held it in till I got to the bathroom. Ha, no but seriously… I was gutted. I made it through the rest of the session with some assistance work, but the damage was done… I had failed.

Failure is a horrible word when you’re trying to lose weight and get healthy. It leaves the world open to so much disappointment. What makes a fail? A bad meal? Missing the gym? Failing out on a set you smashed the week before? Having two cookies instead of one? I’m sure I’ve felt some level of failure after all of these.

So what now? Crawl up in a ball and cry? Eat myself into a coma and give up completely? NO! I was NOT going to fall back into that trap. This was one minor setback in a whole heap of amazing progress, toughen up and move on.

Are you going to let it defeat you?

I took the day yesterday for some reflection…remind myself why I was doing this. About 6 weeks ago I set myself some goals to get me through the 8 weeks before my holiday

  1. Choose wisely – ask myself if what I’m going to eat is going nourish and fulfil me.
  2. Exercise – training 3 times a week with Mark, plus Tuesday and a weekend day.
  3. Breeeeeeeeeeeath – everyday
  4. Look after my liver – Lots of dandelion tea, lots of water and limit my alcohol

It was JUST what I needed to kick me back into shape. I still had a rubbish headache all day, but I took my time reading through each goal, what it meant to ME. I went home early after work and did some work on the foam roller and then crashed out. It was great.

This morning I woke up with a smile, I was feeling better and I was amped to get back into the gym. I put on my fav sneakers, my fav lippy and set about smashing the day. I listened to my fav music on the train ride in – cheesy 90s pop. The cheesier the better. This morning it was S Club 7, judge me if you need to. But it got me going. My session tonight was just what I needed. I smashed the bench with some pretty solid sets of 55kgs, then some incline dumbbell press, some military press and then finished off with some close grip bench. An epic, strong session.

My fav sneakers
All smiles after today’s session









I was back.


So how do you bounce back from failure? I’d love your tips.

The Girl Who Lifts.


4 comments on “Coming back from failure”

  1. Another honest post, I love them.

    You know I think when you’re trying to achieve anything significant then you have got to keep the bigger picture in mind. One bad meal isn’t going to make you gain weight in exactly the same way that one salad won’t make you lose it. I recommend practicing reframing what you see as ‘failures’. Eg Monday wasn’t a fail at the gym because you’ve learned not to repeat whatever you’d done on Sunday night that set you up for a bad session. This isn’t the same as ignoring where you’re making mistakes, but instead being a little kinder to yourself and finding something positive to focus on. If someone else was telling you over and over that you messed something up you’d feel pretty crap, and it has the same effect when you’re talking to yourself.

    Whether it’s a bad gym session or a bad food week, look it as a wee bit of turbulence in your journey. It’s not a linear process and like everything else in life sometimes despite your best efforts things blow up.

    The only failure would be totally giving up and deciding you can’t do it so you won’t try any more. You’re not going to do that!!

    So my tips: be nice to yourself, keep at it, focus on the big picture. 🙂

    • Hey Rosie – thanks 🙂 I’m so glad you’re enjoying the blog. And you’re totally right – I do need to stop being so hard on myself sometimes. I think it’s really easy to get wrapped up in the small day to day stuff, I forget about the major goal 🙂

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